It’s My Birthday! (Playing The Long Game)

What’s On My Mind

It’s my birthday today!

(Good thing I write these a few days beforehand instead of getting up at 4 am, right?)

​I like birthdays.

​Birthdays are great times to pause and reflect.

To be grateful.

​To connect with the people that matter most.

​To celebrate our annual progress.

​One thing I’m really grateful for this year is that, even from a really young age, it made sense to me to play the long game.

I know my dad having a stroke a few weeks ago has made me grateful for so many deep relationships.

​(By the way, my dad is progressing nicely. He’s not recovering as quickly as he would like, but he’s putting in the work day after day. He’s playing the long game.)

​I think I know why I’ve always focused on long-term, deep relationships.

​It was growing up in rural Indiana.

​We were sort of newcomers to the 100-person small town of Preble Indiana, but the neighbors around us lived on the same plots of land for generations.

​It’s not like Atlanta, where you feel like living next to someone for three years is a long time.

​There, many times families lived next to each other for three generations.

When you live in a community like that, you treat each other right.

​Notice a fence needs to be mended?

​You don’t just call your neighbor.

​You get out of your truck and mend it yourself—right then and there.

​You might not even mention it to anyone.

​That’s playing the long game.

​You are not thinking about yourself or what you want.

​In business development, playing the long game is not thinking about short-term goals or what “closed deal” will make your year.

Instead, it’s always doing what’s right for others.

​Every day.

​Long game.

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What’s Worth Checking Out

My friend Dorie Clark has a new book out.

​And guess what.

​​It’s called The Long Game!​

​Dorie was on the show back in the spring, and we got a sneak peek as she was finishing The Long Game manuscript.

​These episodes are worth a listen or watch again.

​Dorie was fantastic.

We had so much fun recording this, laughing so much, and sharing some great concepts.

Here’s a recap:​

​Here’s Dorie’s overview of how to play The Long Game.

​Here’s her take on how we can use The Long Game mindset to grow our books of business.

​Here’s how we can use The Long Game to build a relationship advantage.

​​Here’s how we can use The Long Game to hack our habits to succeed.​

​​And, here are the top insights I got from our conversations.​

Great stuff!

And most importantly…

​​Here’s the link to snag Dorie’s new book at Amazon.

​It comes out next week!

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What’s Worth Lingering On

Playing the long game is huge.

​It’s a competitive advantage.

​Our ego can pull us into worrying about ourselves and focusing on the short term.

​What our expectations are for a meeting. What our goals are for the year.

Wishing things would move faster–and silently conveying we feel that way to others.​

Think of a time when you were buying something, and the other side played the short game.​

They were Pushy.​

They put on Pressure.

They were going too fast.

​Now think of time when you were buying something and the other side played the long game.

​They were proactively investing in your relationship.

They were progressing at the perfect pace.​

They were going above and beyond.

It’s a beautiful thing to buy from someone playing the long game.

​It’s funny.

​Do you know the shortest answer to getting short term results?
​Play the long game.

Mo