Mo asks Luke Burgis: How can we use mimetic desire to hack our own habits?
- It comes down to having a plan. In the absence of a game plan, the negative aspects of mimetic desire wins and you will gravitate to what’s easy.
- You may be able to list your core values, but you need to go further and order them from most important to least important. Oftentimes our values will come into conflict and without knowing the hierarchy you make everything more difficult.
- Your positive models can help you escape the negative flywheel. With a positive mentor, you can measure what your time has been spent on and compare it to what you are hoping to be.
- In times of uncertainty imitation increases, especially the negative type. Positive models of desire like professionals and mentors can really help in these situations.
- Work can feel like a battlefield. When you’re in the trenches you need to have a transcendent desire to pull you above the fray.
- We are responsible for what other people want. Every person we come into contact with we leave wanting a little differently. Who is it in your life that has the biggest effect on what you’re doing?
- If you’re not putting in the time on business development that you know you should, are you lacking the model?
- Understanding the impact and influence we have on desire is a highly meaningful and fundamental aspect of everything we do.
- In order for a career progression to play out the desire has to be thick. You have to find a mentor that you respect on multiple levels to develop the perseverance to make it a reality.
- Look for models that are stable and have been around for a long time to avoid losing your model midway through your journey.
- It’s better if the lines of communication are open. Emulation of positive role models shouldn’t be done in secret. We are on the outside looking in most of the time, so we won’t really understand the process unless communication is open. Without communication we can go from one wrong false assumption to another.
- We don’t often know what the good is going to be in a relationship. Trust that investing in a colleague’s personal development is always going to be fruitful.
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